Honestly, it doesn’t matter if you haven’t done what you want yet. It doesn’t matter if you’re a wreck right now. It doesn’t matter, because it’s not the end. Every moment doesn’t feel like a new chance, but it is. Most of the time, the bars and limits we have are those we put on ourselves. If you want to do something more, you can achieve that.
It’s easy to think that couldn’t be the case. We think that if we want to go see a new movie in theaters, we have to go with friends. You don’t, you could go yourself. We think we can’t switch careers, because we wouldn’t even know where to start. Fine, you don’t know where to start, but knowing that means your first step is finding out what the steps are. We think that if we don’t stay or become a certain way, we’ll be alone forever. Surely, there is an importance to listening to what others have to say and heeding their advice, but at the end of the day, there is a line between listening to others and letting them rule your life.
Everything to this point matters in that it has built you up into who you are right now, but that doesn’t mean you have to play your hand out exactly like it’s expected. We are in a processing of growing, and its going to take a while to get to where we want to go. It’s terrifying to abruptly change, and there are many things that seem way beyond us– and that’s okay! Changing overnight is a difficult and natural thing. What is good is teaching yourself, step by step, to creep towards those goals of yours, pushing what’s comfortable for you. This moment is a chance. This moment too. If you don’t take it now, seriously ask yourself if you ever will.
No one knows what the future holds. If life is a movie, all the scripts are invisible to us. However, no matter what happens, we can still determine the genre of the movie. Acting like you’re in a movie isn’t always the best option, but just quickly consider how we fill our lives affects our priorities and therefore our experiences. If you want your life to be a comedy, you tell lots of jokes and don’t take things too seriously. If you want your life to be a romance, you work hard to be kind and considerate to others; you become loving so it’s easier for people to love you. If you want your life to be a mystery, you are inquisitive and read lots of good books to broaden your knowledge.
Attitude and outlook have a massive impact on how we live our lives. If you focus on the horror and tragedy of life, you’re going to pay special attention to the gray lighting, the stormy days, the sad people. That then, will help fuel even more horrific, tragic events. The context plays out in accordance to our expectations because there is so much simulation from the world around us that our selection of attention must work effectively. After all, it is much easier for us to prove to ourselves that we are right, and much harder for us to prove to ourselves that we are wrong.
Most movies have overlapping genres, some don’t fit into any. Yet, we still group various stories together because we believe there is a similarity there. We think that someone who likes A will also like B. Along with who else do you want your life to be placed? What is the message you give the world, what is your advice? We might not have a script, we might not have a lot, but we can always be better than who we were yesterday, if even just a little.
One of my favorite movies, perhaps my most favorite, is a ridiculous, campy heavy handed masterpiece called “Joe versus Volcano”. It stars Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan, with Meg in three seperate roles and special effects arguably worse than Power Rangers. Tom Hanks is a miserable man who finds out he has a “brain cloud” and will die in six months, so he makes a deal with some corporate quack to jump into a volcano as a human sacrifice. One of my favorite parts of the movie is how absolutely stuffed with symbolism it is, but the most important part is the message, and it’s ridiculous, an absolute bonkers lesson that means a lot.
You only live life once. Every second of life doesn’t have to be exciting and interesting, we all have little odds and ends that need to be tolerated, but we shouldn’t just be “tolerating” our entire lives. We need to be starry-eyed a bit, just a little, and ask ourselves what our dreams are, our goals. We are never too young or too old to accomplish things. What things we accomplish vary, but we are always more capable than we think.
Everyday life isn’t stunning, it’s not usually all that fun either. What it can be, however, is up to us. We can talk to others, listen to our favorite music, clean up to de-stress, and really live. Chasing after your dreams is hard, but the hardest part is keeping that dream alive enough every dreamy to chase it every day. Relationships take work, careers take work, even relaxation takes some work, but putting in the effort is worth it. You can do this. Watch a ridiculous movie every once in a while, remember to get excited about this stupid, little things, because that’s sometimes the best part about it.