A poem about nerves and fear:
The thing about fear is that drives you down to your stomach in Now
Now is here, there, and living like a wild monkey on your shoulder, playing with your chest like it’s strumming a harp
And the drive is to forget, to distract, to just get away to a place with unfamiliar bridges in shadowy nights
But what do we have, if we do not appreciate this moment?
Every moment we have is a moment of our lives, a moment of time, limited edition feat. You and yourself and all the rest of you
Maybe it’s radical, but even if it is our fear making us hold Time in the forefront of our minds, we are still holding Time
And as we shift towards gratitude, an absurdity, we make a pact of peace
Why should we be ashamed of our fear? We didn’t cast Fear as the starring role in the film, all we can do is deal with the diva
And we handle it,
as we have in the past, as others have done, and as we will do in the future, as other future selves will do
There is a balance between being patient with yourself, and encouraging yourself to actually get things done.
Oftentimes we have to treat ourselves like small children. We have to reward ourselves with snacks, set time apart for naps, make sure our schedule is in line. Things become messy when we realize the person who will reward us is usually us. It’s easy to be our child-self, far more difficult to convince ourselves to be adults.
Being an adult seems like its own world when you’re a child. It is a set of concepts we associate with responsibility and personal power: opening accounts, setting a budget, going grocery shopping, going to work, etc. It seems foreign to those who haven’t done it, terrifying, really.
But it’s a challenge like every other we face. We learn things one by one. We walk to a place, we fill out a form, and we ask questions when we aren’t sure.
Being “adult” is more or less scary to different individuals, but the same idea holds for a lot of things. Fundamentally, we build things up in our head. We make mole hills into mountains and that makes the prospect of climbing them far more difficult. No matter how complicated a task, we break it down into simpler steps. No matter how important a decision is, the moments leading up help give us the necessary information.
So be patient with yourself on the little things, but get those little things done. All of the huge weights we create are an accumulation of little bits we can handle.