Caffeine affects people in different ways. For some, it heightens the senses, attention, and just about everything else. I’ve heard a surprising number claim that it makes them sleepy. For others, it has no effect at all, and personally, it makes me sick and jittery in high quantities. Caffeine coffee addicts might be tempted to think that caffeine is some sort of miracle that grants focus, but it’s not just the caffeine. It’s the way your body reacts to the caffeine.
In a similar way, even when two people seem to be in the same situation, they’re not. Biologically, they cannot be the same person, which makes them different at the very least on genetic level. But then add our experiences, our psychological state, our associations of that situation, and all bets are off. There’s no guarantee that the way we see things are 100% the whole truth, and most certainly that usually isn’t the case. Such as the way the symptoms of anxiousness and cues of dislike are similar, we can miss the intentions of other people. We can read ‘anger’ when there’s really only ‘uncomfortable’. We aren’t omniscient, and we can take comfort in that thought. Not-knowing keeps our lives interesting and meaningful in our journey to understanding more of it.
No situation is entirely equal because people are never exactly the same, and that means we can’t actually accurately compare ourselves to others without some sort of intensive scientific methodology. There will always be people who don’t like you. There will always be people you don’t like. There will always be a problem to grumble and be up in arms about, but that doesn’t mean you have to grumble and be up in arms about it. Our choices are important. We can be both positive and realistic.