The colder it gets outside, the more miserable we become inside. Although the holiday season is coming down the street, dealing with freezing rain and insufficient layering is its own spectacularly ghastly experience. At least so it is for me. However, I have insane friends who insist that the cold feels good, and that it helps them think. Even some who hate the cold like I can look past it to enjoy the season that’s coming up. With all this in mind, I would just like to use this variance of cold-sensitivity to bring up how we can become less of a jerk to others and ourselves.
Everyone has gone through different life experiences. You, as an individual, cannot accurately point to a stranger and say they are wrong for not reacting in the same way as you. A loud noise can be a mild irritant or it can prompt a horrible memory; it depends on the person. Culture, socioeconomic status, gender, sexuality, geographic origins: our demographics are important factors that can dramatically influence the way we view and act. Even if you and a stranger come from the same town, same neighborhood, have been through the same schools and had the same teachers, have the same skin color and religion, you are still going to be different because of genetics and family. We assume often that there is a lot of overlap between our lives. That may be true! However, when it comes to other people, patience and understanding can move mountains. The bottom line is that you don’t know everything there is to know about them, and judging them isn’t your place.
That being said– the person we know the best is ourselves. Nine times out of ten, we aren’t pushing ourselves to the best of our capacity. We either stress ourselves out overmuch or give too much leeway. We make ourselves miserable. Yes, the weather is very cold. The problem arises when we keep thinking about the cold, complaining about the cold, and make ourselves even colder than before. No human can tell you if you’re really doing your best besides you. In many cases, we have to learn to let go of our mistakes instead of rehashing them over and over again. We need to make mistakes, learn from them, and continue on. We need to be patient with ourselves, but also push forward.
The way we interact with others is important. Even if it’s small talk about the weather, we need to realize that some people become cold more easily than others. We also, however, need to realize when we’re complaining an excessive amount. We need to be patient with others and ourselves, and move past the difficulties into a solution.