“How are you?” is a scripted formality that implies nothing besides decorum. We don’t answer it truthfully, we say, “Fine” or “Good” or “Doing great!” if we want to spice things up a bit. We also miss out on asking ourselves that question until we’re full of some negative emotion like anger or sadness. Even then, who looks in the mirror and asks themselves, “How are you”? It seems strange because we are ourselves; we should know how we feel.
It’s hard to slow down. We like to fill up every moment with something, productive or no. If we aren’t working or in class, we’re on our phones. If we’re not on our phones, we’re talking to someone. If we aren’t doing any of those things, we are either asleep or being forced to be still. Sitting there doing nothing– it seems pointless. Why wouldn’t you be filling your day up? Life is brief after all. Staring at a wall isn’t as fun as looking through the latest memes.
And yet. Taking time out of our day to just be still and relax for a moment is incredibly important. It makes you grateful for what you have, focuses you on what you want to accomplish. It says, “Hey. My mind is going everywhere, what is actually the most important thing for me to be doing?” Going from activity to activity is blurry. Instead of making your life count, too much work can actually prohibit you from experiencing it. Slowing down means recognizing where you are, realizing how you are, and being present for the moment that matters most: the one right now. So don’t be afraid to ask yourself questions. Don’t be afraid to take a moment out of the day to deal with yourself before dealing with all the other things you have to do.